“Ken says, “Women can be great role models, but we need gay male role models.” Perhaps all we need is open, honest discussions about being young and gay. So much emphasis is put on coming out and acceptance. Still, we cannot reasonably expect to be embraced as complex, layered, loving human beings when we reject each other so easily. Cole’s point that “all the gay community has in common is their sexuality, so the center of gay culture is sex” demonstrates a rejection of all that an authentic community can offer. The modern conception of a young gay community in New York City is disjointed, varied, and seemingly unnecessary as a support system, but also far more complex, layered, and filled with non-stereotypical qualities than most people, including the people within it, seem to acknowledge.”
Homo: Looks interesting! And we agree, women are a great example to model after, because women, unlike gay men, cannot claim to be a community. There’s no one ideal or role model, but a plurality and that pluralism should be ours. If we give up the fiction of a happy unified gay village (that never existed and never will), we can let go of policing “gay standards” for not living up to ideals. Let men be drawn by affinity and desire to form their own tribal constellations. (This is what’s happening anyway.) Give up also any pretense of a stable identity (didn’t one of us, Proust, put a nail in that coffin?) and honor the complexity of our precarious existence.
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